More recently, sex on a first date was considered bad form. Until now, many parents have instructed children, especially daughters, that the first date should be limited to a maximum kiss. However, mores in the modern world are becoming more conventional and sex at the first meeting is no longer so easy to scare or surprise. However, there are many different points of view on this subject.
The opinion of women about sex on a first date
Women in their psychology are more conservative and chaste than men, therefore it is not surprising that most of them are inclined to think that it takes more time to switch to intimacy. Unlike men, they are excited not so much physically as psychologically, so in order to switch to sex, a woman needs to decide for herself whether she is interested in a partner enough.
However, some women do not delve into self-digging and act intuitively, relying on circumstances. It depends on the character, worldview and life position.
A rare woman, if she is not against intimacy, expresses it bluntly. Feminine nature implies playfulness and coquetry, slight resistance and deliberate modesty, therefore, according to the behavior of a woman, it is not always possible to understand if she is not opposed or in doubt. It is much easier to understand that the girl is categorically against: then she keeps herself strictly, does not allow herself and her partner to touch, avoids intimate topics and keeps herself slightly at a distance.
You can understand what the girl is more inclined to if you observe her and ask a couple of leading questions. If a girl calmly or benevolently responds to touch and flirt, most likely she does not mind, but if with more active hints she abruptly withdraws, then it is better to wait.
What do men think about sex on a first date?
A rare guy, going on a date, counts on his first sex on the same day or evening, but almost everyone thinks about it. Most men regard this as something pleasant and inspiring, akin to achievement and reward for it. If a girl demonstrates consent, even disguised, the man is unlikely to refuse, moreover, he will be flattered and will be assured of his attractiveness and compelling.
Of course, there are conservative men who hold more traditional views and consider sex on a first date unacceptable. Much depends on upbringing and experience in relationships.
Much more different is the attitude of men towards girls who agree to have sex on a first date. Someone considers this a sign of easy accessibility, however, social surveys show that 70% of men surveyed consider women's consent to be a sign of exposure to male charm.
With a great deal of confidence, we can say that men are wary of women who consent to sex without persuasion.If a girl doubts even a little bit, forcing a guy to show perseverance and the art of seduction, this is not only a plus to her character, but also a bonus of skill for the man himself.
Pros and cons of intimacy at the first meeting
Sex is not only a way to please yourself and your partner, but also a good reason to get to know a person and decide for yourself whether it suits you. Many couples break up, not converging sexually, although they are pretty in character.
Of course, before deciding on such a crucial step, it is necessary to competently weigh the pros and cons. Sex on a first date can be welcomed if there is mutual attraction, freedom of communication and emancipation in behavior. When young people meet and a spark runs between them, intimacy not only relieves stress, but also allows you to become closer to each other. Someone uses sex to show themselves in all its glory, someone just goes on a date without thinking about the future and is considering any opportunity to relax and have fun.
If one of the partners has a different view of these things or between the pair there is no attraction akin to electric, sex on the first date may make it the last for at least one of the participants. In addition, much depends on the behavior of both partners after an act of love.
How to behave after sex on a first date?
So it happened. Doubts and fears are overcome, the explosion occurred and it is time to decide what to do next. The outcome of the first sex may be different. Sometimes it is not entirely successful and ends with tension. The woman is not always to blame for this, sometimes a man turns out to be insolvent in bed, or feelings are not enough for stormy and memorable sex. Often, one of the partners prefers to say goodbye immediately after sex and the reasons for this may be different:
- One of the partners is married;
- In view of the presence of one of the partners in love with his ex or ex, a feeling of guilt appears;
- One of the partners is an adherent of free relations and does not want to provoke the development of strong feelings;
- Sex was frankly unsuccessful, which could contribute to alcohol intoxication.
In the case when a girl or a guy is against falling asleep in a hug or meeting again, it is better not to find out the reason and not to express a negative. Going to such a step, you must be prepared for different types of events.
But it also happens that after the first night a man offers to continue dating, but the girl does not mind. Rarely do things happen the other way around, but it happens. In order for the first sex to entail the beginning of a strong relationship, you should avoid the common mistakes made by both men and women:
- Talk about life together, plan it for several years ahead, describe in paints the wedding and the birth of children;
- Giving a partner excessive caresses and care;
- Consider a partner as a potential spouse or spouse;
- Actively write and name, suggesting a new meeting.
After sex on a first date, it is better to withstand a short pause, and this applies especially to girls. A sign of good taste and the key to a successful relationship are actions such as:
- Unobtrusive, but warm behavior after parting;
- Gratitude expressed in words or touches - from the girl, the same, as well as flowers or a nice gift - from the guy;
- Everyday conversations on abstract topics;
- After some time - an invitation to some event, movie or performance from a guy.
The girl should not take the initiative, this is the prerogative of the guy, and if he is interested, then he will definitely show it. To increase your chances when a girl wants to continue the relationship, a good way may be to return the thing forgotten by the guy at home if the meeting took place at his place. Having found it, the guy will try to return it, and if he doesn’t find it, you can directly ask and give him a reason to meet again.
The guy, if he wants to continue to meet with the girl, should take a short pause of half a day or a day and resume communication, gradually moving on to proposals for new meetings, showing perseverance and gallantry. Often, according to the girl’s reaction to several messages or a call, you can understand her attitude.
If there is mutual attraction and the couple is sexually compatible, then they have every chance of building a strong and long relationship. And in this case, the serial number of the date on which the sex occurred does not play a role at all.
