How to fall in love with a man?

Every woman dreams of men lining up in front of her, attracted by her beauty and charm. But such dreams do not always come true, and sometimes it happens that everything falls at the woman’s feet, but not the one that is needed. In the technique of seducing men, there are subtleties and secrets that every woman must know if she wants to fall in love with herself without much effort, and a couple of dangerous tools that cannot be used in any case.

What attracts men?

From the point of view of psychology, it is impossible to assert with absolute certainty what exactly attracts men in women. If it were that simple, millions of women would suffer because they did not like the stronger sex, for they would choose the same ones. But all people are different and what one person likes can be disgusting to another. In addition, the attractiveness factor depends on the person’s worldview, on his character and, of course, the purpose of the meeting.

Everyone understands that men looking for a partner for a few dates, first of all pay attention to their appearance. One can endlessly talk about what hair color, clothing style and manicure design guys prefer to see in a beautiful girl, but this does not make sense if we are talking about long-term relationships. Outward beauty can fall in love with a young boy, but it is difficult to surprise an adult man with it.

Choosing a mate to fall in love and start a family, men pay only 30% of their appearance. The remaining 70% is given to character, behavior and priorities in life.

So, with a certain degree of certainty, we can say that men are attracted to women:

• Well-groomed appearance, the rest (hairstyle, manicure, tan, breast size) is optional;
• Discreet but feminine style of dress;
• Natural behavior, however, men always appreciate emancipation, easy coquetry and confident playfulness;
• Modest, sincere, positive character;
• Mind, education, thinking outside the box;
• A variety of interests, hobbies, preferences and activities.

It should be borne in mind that there are many factors that repel guys on the contrary. However, statistics show that a rare woman who has a quality that repels male representatives is able to accept and realize this. So, a man will never buy a woman with the following flaws:

• Mercantile and greedy;
• Narcissism and self-confidence;
• Feminist views, careerism;
• The ostentatious love for children, about which the woman speaks constantly;
• Excessive glamor, plastic surgery on the face;
• Inaccuracy and untidiness;
• Bad habits;
• Obsession.

An ideal woman simply must have at least one flaw that completes her image with a kind of cherry on the cake, otherwise the man will always feel the catch, seek out the hidden, and can invent for himself what does not exist.

And this is not a complete list. A small exercise helps to evaluate its attractiveness.Put yourself in the shoes of a man and evaluate yourself from the side. Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses, and you will understand what needs to be worked on and what needs to be emphasized.

How to charm a man?

Charm a man and arrange for communication is easy if you know what to do. A much more responsible stage begins when the man is already interested and this interest needs to be supported. However, sometimes difficulties arise already at the charm stage. It’s impossible to understand if a guy likes you, if you don’t communicate, so you must first get to know each other. To a man from the first days of acquaintance showed a keen interest, psychologists recommend to girls:

• Be sure of the ideality of your appearance: healthy skin, well-groomed hair and nails, clean and tidy clothes, neat makeup.
• To be unobtrusive - to intrigue, but not to hunt. Let the man, interested in you, feel that you need to achieve. Show interest, flirt a little, but keep at a distance, let him feel like a hunter and take the first step himself.
• Learn the object of your sympathy in advance and be able to maintain a conversation, touching on topics of interest to him. Based on common interests, it is much easier to start a conversation, so you will cause respect for the representative of the stronger sex. The main thing is not to pretend that you are interested in absolutely everything that a guy is fond of, that you will only scare him away. Show that you share some views, but at the same time demonstrate your independence by having your own hobbies.
• Be original and diverse. Men are fascinated by changes, image changes, various outfits and not only - conversations on the same topic become boring in the same way as a small black dress for all occasions. Change, but not too often, at ease and slightly playfully.
• Radiate positive. You can give yourself the freedom to be sad if you have known a man for a long time and he often saw you as cheerful and carefree, but if you just met, it is easier to charm a man with a positive and smile. It is not necessary to joke and laugh every second, but a sweet smile and eyes glowing with fun can attract male attention.

All these tips will work if you almost do not pretend, but do not help if you follow them against your usual character and condition or without the proper skill.

If you are gloomy and joyless inside, you have long forgotten the word “hobby” and don’t really like talking, you should first change for yourself and become a girl whom you yourself would fall in love with as a guy. After that, you can already charm at least the whole world!

How to fall in love with a guy?

It is impossible to make a man fall in love with you immediately and from scratch, but you can strengthen the already existing sympathy with a few simple female tricks. If a guy is friendly towards you and behaves in a gentlemanly manner, a few simple tips will help you develop a good attitude before falling in love:

• Give compliments, but in dosage. Representatives of the stronger sex do not receive them as often as women, because of which they are doubly pleasant to them. They are often conducted in pleasant words, especially those that subtly notice the strong features of their character. If you accidentally identify a trait that, as a man used to think, no one notices, it will cause him strong emotions. But too many compliments will devalue all efforts, so it’s better not to go too far with them.
• Ask for a service. According to psychological studies, a person is inclined to sympathize with another after he has helped him or provided a service, regardless of whether the other person has caused sympathy before. At a subconscious level, the service rendered renders the person who rendered it to the one whom he helped. This psychological method is called the effect of Benjamin Franklin - it was he who discovered this little secret of consciousness.Ask the representative of the stronger sex for help, then do not forget to warmly thank and reward him in return, you will see how his attitude will change.
• Do not avoid, but promote long-term eye contact. No wonder they say that you can fall in love with yourself with your eyes. You should not look at a man point blank, but you should keep your eyes on his eyes a little longer than usual (for a second or two), and then, as if nothing had happened, look away, repeat, and the guy’s heart is almost in yours pocket.
• Mention by chance that you dreamed of a guy. He will decide what you thought about him before going to bed and will think about it. But do not paint the content of the dream, especially erotic details, limit yourself to a description of a sweet, innocent moment.
• Flirt with someone in front of his eyes. All men are pleased when other women are paying attention to their women. Show him that you are interesting to other people. Flirt with someone who answers flirting, and that will add you points, unless the man is jealous. And if it makes him jealous, consider that he is already in love with you.
• Be responsive. Listen to what the man is talking about, sympathize with him, offer your help if he is experiencing difficulties of any nature, except physical and material (this can offend him). Show that you do not care how he feels, take care - strong men appreciate it.
• Live your life. Be active, do various things, do not sit at home alone. Guys love girls who have a busy life and who have something to tell. Do not focus on the man, even for the period of conquest, remember that everything in the world is changeable. Treat life with ease and understanding.

A couple of such subtleties in behavior, and soon a man will be seriously interested in you, and then you only need to maintain interest and add passion. But first, get to know the person better and clearly decide for yourself: do you need him as a life partner and whether he deserves all the effort.

Psychological tricks

When ordinary women's techniques do not help, the NLP technique comes to the rescue. World-class pickers use neuro-linguistic programming almost every day and in the matter of personal life it comes in handy as never before. The main tools of NLP are voice, words and surroundings.

One of the most effective methods of NLP in order to fall in love with others is:

• "Fine tuning";
• Anchoring
• "Positive reinforcement."

«Fine tuning"- one of the most popular tricks. It is great for making close contact. "Adjustment" involves imitation of a partner in behavior, gestures, emotions, facial movements and even breathing. This adjustment is also called "external", it should be done as naturally as possible. After the "adjustment" is made, there comes the time of "reference". Smile and the other person will smile in turn. After some time, your partner will unconsciously begin to repeat your emotions, both positive and negative. Value tuning is also effective. In order to tune into the same wavelength with a man, try to look at things with his eyes.

«Anchoring"- this is the basis of NLP, used not only in seduction techniques, but also in many other ways: upbringing, treatment, psychotherapy. “Anchoring” is based on the positive emotions of the partner and is fixed on a situation similar to the moment at which emotions were caused, as well as smells, music, touches. If you recall the smell of grandmother’s pies from childhood, which immediately warmed the soul, you can get a vivid example of an anchor.

In order to “anchor” positive memories, you must first find a partner in a natural way or through adjustment / mirroring / joining.Then ask him about something pleasant, for example, about his favorite holiday, asking him to tell in detail about his impressions and feelings. Any negative emotions should be avoided. When a man relaxes and it will be clear from his face that he is in a state of bliss from memories, you can establish a tactile anchor - touch any part of his body and remember it. Then turn the conversation in a different direction.

After some time (from 15 minutes and several positive feelings), check the anchor by repeating touch and carefully following the reaction. If the reception was done correctly, the mood of the man will return to the one in which he stayed when setting the anchor.

The anchoring method can be used for absolutely any purpose and opens up scope for seduction.

«Positive reinforcement"- also an effective NLP technique that allows you to consolidate the positive reaction of the interlocutor. This manipulation technique consists in the continuous positive promotion of behavior using:

• Consent
• Attention;
• Smiles
• Praise;
• Positive anchors, etc.

At the same time, negative manifestations that do not suit you need to be reacted with either short-term indifference or special negative anchors. Using this method, you can adjust the behavior of the partner, reinforcing the manifestation of romantic feelings. After a while, a person will behave the way you like, on an intuitive level.

What ways you can not fall in love with yourself?

An unambiguous conclusion that can be drawn is most effective in order to fall in love with a guy working personal behavior and psychological methods. You can attract the attention of a representative of the opposite sex solely by your actions.

Definitely useless as charm methods:

• Fortunetellers, love spells, magic and conspiracies. Even if by some miracle a guy falls in love with you without your participation, with a probability of 90%, it will quickly pass if you do not behave accordingly and reinforce the feeling that has arisen. A lover against his will (unless, of course, the love spell works!) The man will by all means resist and spoil shaky relationships;
• Blackmail and other violent means of bright feelings cannot be called out, just the opposite - worsen the situation;
• Excessive obsession can not attract the attention of a man, on the contrary it will turn it away. Breaking personal boundaries will make you want to avoid you in every way possible;
• Persistence, when a guy firmly says no to you, is meaningless. Everyone has the right to their own decision. Once you meet another, in the meantime, you should respect the choice of a man.

Try, experiment, find out your capabilities and, most importantly, do not lose faith in yourself under any circumstances.

This article is designed to help every woman charm any man. But we should not forget that people are different from each other and each man needs an individual approach.