There is much debate about raising children, especially their behavior in public places. Many believe that it is unacceptable to take a child with him if he screams and his parents cannot calm him down. Others side with their parents, because they know how difficult it is with crying children.
So what to do? To stand and look at it, not being able to either remove or ignore the annoying cry, or come up to help the mother?
It turns out that everything is not so simple and unambiguous.
In transport
The longer you drive, the more difficult it is to disengage from a child screaming in the cabin. And whether it is yours or not. Believe me, mom most of all wants the baby to stop crying.
No need to constantly hiss and pokethinking that it would help the mother calm the baby. Not at all, it is more likely to cause a woman even more stress and discomfort.
Moreover, do not try to calm the child yourselfpicking up. No mother will give her baby to strangers to rock them.
If you want to do something useful, it’s better to tactfully hint to others that their rudeness towards parents and the child will not help.
In shops
- Oh, and you know, when my child wants me to buy something for him, I just take and buy!
It sounds like that worst advicethat can be given to the mother or father of the child screaming in the store.
A kid in a supermarket can cry, not only because of a refusal to buy his favorite chocolate bar, but also from fatigue or for another reason.
There is no need to advise anything, but to give up a place in the line or to help get a product from the far shelf is the best solution.
In cafes and restaurants
Children running around a cafe or restaurant are one thing, and crying children are another. Again, the reason for crying may be completely inaccessible to you, and your parents will not explain.
Just change the location, sit back and continue to rest. It is not worth disturbing a mom trying to at least relax a bit or to facilitate her eternal cooking at home.
Believe me, mom is very, very tired, she needs at least a short respite. And your advice will definitely be redundant.
Moreover, you do not need to call a waiter or manager to "reassure the child." If there is no indication that they are not allowed into the institution with small children, the administrator or other staff will not be able to do anything about it.
In the park
The park is a priori not a quiet place. However, perhaps the only way you can help a mother with a child.
Is the baby screaming? Do not run screaming in response to his parentbe it mom or dad. Better to find than to distract the baby.
If you are in the park with your children, then let them play. Or you can temporarily share the toy.
And even more so, one should not meddle with moralizing on the subject of upbringing. The child runs, fell, and the mother did not pay attention? If he does not cry and does not break anything for himself - everything is fine! No need to go and raise someone else's child.
Each has different methods and concepts on the topic of parenting. It’s better to keep your own.
What if the child is sick? There are many diseases that are characterized by restlessness, excessive activity, for example, ADHD. And in some cases, you can’t explain anything to the baby, in view of the disorder of receptive speech, when he simply does not understand anything.
But along with this, and parents need to be able to distinguish hyperactivity from simple boredom. And you should not look for excuses in the psychology of a child, unless the problem is directly confirmed by a specialist in this field.
