The joy of motherhood is hardly one of the greatest in the life of a woman. However, few people honestly admit what problems they face during pregnancy and after childbirth. And it is not only a matter of health or physiology, some aspects are quite psychological in nature.
A lot of worries, worries and fears await future and newly made mothers. Most often, they are directly related to motherhood itself.
How many times did each pregnant woman think about whether she would be a good mother? Will she be able to raise a child correctly? Will it be possible to give the baby everything you need? And, most importantly, would she love him?
After all, it happens that some women during pregnancy, and sometimes some time after childbirth, do not feel much attachment to the baby.
So let's figure out what is the reason for such feelings and is it really worth the fear for your own maternal instincts?
Actually, the problem is not in maternal instincts.
Fears arise for completely different reasons, which often concern the mother and baby only indirectly.
The main reasons why we are afraid:
- Bad experience of the past
One of the main problems is the experience of their own parents. If a woman grew up in adverse conditions or is disappointed in the methods of education by her parents, she will be afraid to repeat their mistakes.
- Fear of mistakes
The second reason often follows from the first. Very often, the fear of improper upbringing or attitudes towards a child is a significant obstacle for a woman.
- An excessive burden of responsibility
Some future mothers are afraid that they will not stand the responsibility that will fall on them after the birth of the baby. The obligation to the future member of society and society itself seems overwhelming.
- Ignorance of how to be a "mother"
Another reason, and rather far-fetched, is the fear that the woman is not prepared for motherhood. In other words, she simply does not know how to be a mother, she is afraid that she will not be able to be as is customary in society.
- Low self-esteem
“I do not deserve to be a mother” - this is the most common reason among women who do not receive well-deserved love and understanding from the outside. Perhaps the problem is related to the opinion that a woman may not be good enough in another social category (friend, sister, wife) or, conversely, she is too demanding of herself.
- Lack of support
Sometimes the fear of motherhood arises from the understanding that there will be no one to help and support in the process. Most often this affects single mothers or women with low social status. The lack of finances, own housing and relatives supporting her is expressed in fear of being a mother.
- Fear of childbirth
Fear of pain and childbirth is by right the most common cause of fear of motherhood in women. However, it is one of those that is easiest to eliminate or avoid.
Will you become a good mom? The answer is extremely simple: you will never be ready to become a mother. All women go through this, somewhere they make minor mistakes, but they are always corrected.No need to be afraid of what new meaning and incentive can bring to your life.
Understand the causes of fear, understand them and fight. Motherhood is wonderful! And no fears should stop you, because the unborn child will become the very light of hope and joy that will light up your life.
And what fears did you face during pregnancy? Share your stories!
