For eight years I have been a constant witness to a very harmonious relationship: a friend with the zeal of a conscientious secretary informed me about how the romance begins, and then the family life. Honestly, I was happy for my girlfriend, and even slightly envied.
Therefore, everything really developed, according to the instructions of beautiful female romance novels: bouquets with or without flowers, sweet surprises, love notes, constant gentle hugs and fleeting kisses. She shares her household chores, her husband gives her morning coffee to bed periodically (and this is after 4 years of marriage and 2 years prior to the registry office of her life!). And here, like a bolt from the blue on a clear July evening, a friend comes running with tears into three streams, she doesn’t look like herself.
In general, the story is banal, everything was good and simply wonderful, when the girl suddenly dawned on her that with romance in their life it became completely depressing. Colleagues at work seemed to have arranged a conspiracy of silence: they meaningly began to look at each other and break off conversations in the smoking room, it was worth a friend to join them. For some reason, everyone began to clap sympathetically on her shoulder and say, "Don’t worry that she left you."
A friend decided to figure out what's what, and directly asked her beloved what was happening. He left the conversation, but sent a short sms: “I fell in love with another, but told everyone that you stopped loving me and left you yourself in order to preserve your vanity”.
I read the messages, was indignant at such impudence: I changed it myself, so I also left my wife and child. And she began the standard consolation procedure, using everything available at home: she gave her friend the opportunity to cry, drank strong coffee with chocolate and cream liqueur, drenched new streams of tears from her eyes with napkins. And she proposed to solve the problem radically: that is, do you need this your narrowed after what happened? And if so, let's look for information, how to return a loved one, if he is already on the other?
How to return a beloved man
From my past life experience, I knew that the best way to win the attention of any man is to show him that you do not need him at all. Then he automatically turns on the old instinct of the hunter, afraid to lose his prey, and he actively rushes to conquer the woman again. Because, according to the code of masculine nature, a girl who has already been conquered, confessing her love and preparing cheesecakes and fried eggs in the morning, becomes uninteresting.
There was a lot of information and different, but from the listed effective means of allowing to act at a distance, prayer seemed to the most effective friend. A friend found at home an icon (still grandmother) of St. Nicholas the Wonderworker and asked for help. She even lit candles, though with New Year's decor - there were no others in the house. I methodically surfed online resources in search of recipes to restore relationships.
For two weeks, a friend tried to “independently return the beloved by the power of thought”, for this it was necessary to tell his photos about her feelings every hour for an hour. In part, she shared her experiences with the photo, but for the most part she spoke to me personally. Then she held a ceremony, which is recommended to be carried out after parting, to attract the energy of love into her life: she placed hearts and paired figurines in the corners of the room, lit scented candles, recited a mantra (she had to invent it herself, but speak from the heart and about the most cherished) .
Then, for two days, a friend suffered over a letter to her beloved - according to reviews, a very powerful tool, especially if you write by hand, list the best moments of your previous life together and the first meeting, and at the end add a note about how much you love the former ... that is, the departed and to tell you that you cannot without him. In my opinion, this is a waste of time, but a friend was a little distracted, writing in uneven handwriting (due to the experience and prescription of practice) sheet by sheet, scribbling and rewriting. But the correspondence did not take place - the friend did not know the new address of residence, and at work her husband took a month's vacation. Under the influence of her creative impulse, I also tried to write poems with a romantic halo, there were words about the chords of love, and about the lonely full moon, and about the days, blacker than chernozem. A friend read, was feeling sympathetic, burst into tears, and I joined the company with her.
10 golden simple rules
In my opinion, it does not matter what a person does during a period of mental torment, the main thing is that he does something, and does not lie in prostration on the couch. And any action can bring the desired result. For example, my girlfriend used the following:
1) I was fascinated by the construction of my future with the help of the “Medici Solitaire” - there it is necessary to build a chain of certain events in order to get the desired result. The positive thing was that she, during her solitaire games, managed to "fold" the present - and literally a day later won some pennies in the lottery. She was inspired, and even went to a beauty salon - for a new hairstyle.
2) Found several online fortune tellers that guarantee fast results, promise instant love spells and provide their magic services even without prepayment. It was not possible to turn a beloved into a family with their help, but a friend was really interested in esotericism, and began to actively enlighten on this subject. As a result, she, in her opinion, restored her energy balance, tuned in to positive thoughts and began not only to listen to more fun songs, but also began to dance to them with pleasure.
3) Then the friend entered the educational era: she deliberately downloaded courses and trainings from torrents on how to return a loved one. " Together we watched three video courses of Victoria Vlasova, were sad under the recordings of Igor Latyshko, and figured out the causes of depression according to the method of Boris Litvak. In fact, re-perspectives of the techniques for the return of men described in the book "How to Return a Loved One" by Oleg Ideal and Alena Volk. A note was followed by a study of Olga Chikankova's recommendations on how to return a loved one. And for some reason, "treatises" by Irina World on how to return his wife.
4) According to my feelings, my friend and I could already give lectures on this subject. But she continued to improve in being happy through the training of Mikhail Torsunov and raising her rating on the courses of Pavel Rakov.
5) Then, on the new moon, we made romantic amulets and performed a ritual to bring personal “female happiness” to life (for this we had to wipe ourselves with cold moon water, take an air bath, and smear ourselves with an aromatic mixture of essential oils under a simple spell like “come to me my love and bring happiness with you ”).
6) And to participate in two safe and completely harmless rituals: to clean the room from unnecessary things, and your life from negative thoughts. And then call the ex-spouse on the phone and talk about neutral topics.
7) After this, a clear breakthrough was outlined in the situation, moreover, in one day: the husband invited his girlfriend to drink coffee in the cafeteria during the lunch break. We must pay tribute to all these magical and psychological tricks that brought a certain result - a friend stopped pitying herself and complaining about her fate, freshened up, prettier. She began to dance more actively with folklore motifs and practice purifying dousing with cold water daily.
8) After a joint coffee party, the husband invited her friend to take her home - she tried to catch him for a long time after a working day with heavy bags and finally she succeeded. The knight in the familiar home environment was offered: his favorite salad with chicken in Greek, tea brewed in a special way and return.
9) The husband thanked for everything and left thoughtful, and the girlfriend, having thoroughly mastered the technique of Simoron, began to recite cool rhymes of her own composition. Along the way, ask for help from St. Matronushka. And to study fortune-telling on tarot cards, and for some reason I managed to guess some married married man.
10) She devoted her next day off to cleaning the house of unnecessary things (she even tried to take out a chair) and filling it with love magic. I do not know what helped, but at the moment when the chair was firmly stuck in the elevator, her husband returned. He worked as a free loader, did some male housework and, as he was very tired, asked to spend the night, they say, and the time was already late (it was just the beginning of the eleventh night).
What to do to regain trust after a lie (psychology)
What helped my friend - I do not know, she has already approached the return of her husband too comprehensively. Everything seemed to be back to normal, but the negative sediment still remained, although her husband apologized and sincerely explained the reason for his act (supposedly that girl herself jumped on him, so he lost his head), and swore oath that such will not happen again. But now it remains to start believing again and not be paranoid because of the past.
But what if the man has lost confidence in you? There is no simple promise here. You need to make it clear that his trust is very important to you. Always be sincere and open to him by telling about secrets that were still inaccessible to anyone. This will help to breathe fresh notes into the old relationship, where there was a place of lies.
And we continue the topic: how to return the guy whom you love (advice from a psychologist).
Proven for centuries way "how to get rid of a rival"
A friend of her husband, of course, believed and forgave, but secretly from him developed a whole strategy to prevent the emergence of new lovers:
1) forbade herself to be jealous and control her man once and for all.
2) she began to “mark” home territory with the smells of fresh pastries (her husband just loves cinnamon rolls), and spontaneously sprinkle the clothes of her beloved with her perfume.
3) engaged in self-improvement in order to look busy, creative and interesting.
4) she began to voice all the requirements for her husband in the form of a request, and at least once a day spoiled him with gratitude, compliments or a laudatory recall (especially with strangers).
5) and most importantly, she began to look at everything with a positive.
